I know my readers only ever see one side of me. And it's the the happy and positive side. It's because I've always had a hard time opening up with people and allowing them into my personal life because often the trust is broken. There's a lot to me, that many people do not often see, I deal with that part of myself alone. It's hard, but I'm figuring it out. Right now I'm questioning whether or not I actually want to continue with this post, but I suppose I have something to prove. Here's an excerpt from a journal entry of mine . . .
I feel strongly to my way of thinking. It's who I am, it makes me proud of the person I have become. Everything I am is the result of my Dad. The most loving, happiest and amazing person I knew. Ask anyone, and they would tell you no different. I believe that if he were still here, his influence would have continued to strengthen me as a person. I would feel no fear, or let anyone think they have any control over me. In some ways that's present today, but I believe he would have raised a truly strong woman.
- You have the right to be treated with respect.
- You have the right to express your feelings, opinions and wants.
- You have the right to set your own priorities.
- You have the right to say “no” without feeling guilty.
- You have the right to have opinions different than others.
- You have the right to take care of and protect yourself from being threatened physically, mentally or emotionally.
- You have the right to create your own happy and healthy life.
I believe these rights can only work if you think of them the other way around because respect goes both ways. You must treat people with respect. You must understand that people will express their feelings, opinions and wants and they will set their own priorities and often say "NO" and it is your job to respect that and not make them feel guilty. They will have opinions different than your own and it is your responsibility to accept that. They also have the right to protect themselves if they feel threatened physically, mentally or emotionally. They also have the right to live their own happy and healthy life.
Knowledge is power, right?
I hope that you feel empowered after reading this post. No one has to feel controlled under any circumstances nor does it have to be in the dark. Talk about it, speak to someone you trust. let them know how you're feeling and often times they'll will support you 100%.
This is the reason I am rebuilding those important relationships. I need those people to help guide me. I need those people who have my best interests at heart. I hope you're able to lead a life of freedom and forgiving . . .
Thanks for reading!
- an expression of good wishes to a person starting a journey.